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Our Blog Is Moving to a New Address!

May 23rd, 2011 · No Comments

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How to Say Good-bye When Someone You Love Is Dying

April 11th, 2011 · No Comments

Yet another great post from

Lesson #1: Don’t wait until the last minute

Lesson #2: It’s OK, even comforting, to let on that you know the end is nearing

Lesson #3: Follow the dying person’s lead

Lesson #4: Truth is good — but so is the little white lie

Lesson #5: Keep talking even if you’re not sure you’re being heard

Lesson #6: Try to stay present — don’t get ahead of yourself

Lesson #7: Trust your instincts, not “the rules”

Lesson #8: You don’t have to issue a formal farewell every time you leave the room

Lesson #9: You can speak volumes without uttering a word

Read the entire terrific article with substance and insight at

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Four Myths About How to Act Around Someone Who’s Dying

April 11th, 2011 · No Comments has a great post based on Hospice Nurse Maggie Callanan’s book Final Journeys: A Practical Guide for Bringing Care and Comfort at the End of Life

The four myths about how to act around someone who’s dying are:

  1. Don’t cry in front of them
  2. Keep the children away
  3. Don’t talk about how you expect your life will change after the dying person has passed away
  4. If you don’t deal with death well, it’s OK to stay away
    There’s great substance in the actual post, which you can read at

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Hospitals Ordered To Follow End-Of-Life Care Wishes by NPR’s Julie Rovner

January 27th, 2011 · No Comments

“NPR’s Julie Rovner reports on the impact the memo could have on patients’ wishes for their end-of-life care.

JULIE ROVNER: This year, marks the 20th anniversary of the year Congress first passed the law requiring that Medicare patients be told of their right to exercise so-called Advanced Directives, those express what kind of care a patient does or does not want in the event they become unable to speak for themselves.

Federal law and the law in all 50 states require such directives to be followed, but that doesnt always happen, says Barbara Coombs Lee.

Ms. BARBARA COOMBS LEE (President, Compassion and Choices): There’s not only a continuing problem with providers not honoring Advanced Directives, there is an increasing problem with providers not honoring Advanced Directives.

ROVNER: Lee heads the consumer group Compassion and Choices. She’s pleased the administration is taking steps to require hospitals to honor Advanced Directives, thats because many of the people she deals with are suffering from terminal diseases.

Ms. LEE: Their worst nightmare would be to be in a prolonged, unconscious debilitated, vegetative state, like Terri Schiavo. And they want to take steps now to document in writing that they are not to be kept alive artificially.

ROVNER: But she says more and more states are passing laws like the one recently approved by the Idaho legislature. It allows a wide array of health care providers who disagree with a patient’s treatment choices, to simply decline to abide by them. And patients have no recourse, she says.

Ms. LEE: That trend is putting the balance of power about health care decision-making exactly where it does not belong, which is with providers and institutions…”

Click here to visit NPR’s website and read or listen to the whole story.

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Giving Thanks For Some Means Getting Ready For Life’s End (NPR)

January 27th, 2011 · No Comments

“A bunch of folks interested in advance directives and palliative care are encouraging families to make the talk part of their regular holiday plans. One way to get started is a five-question guide* put together by a grassroots group called Engage with Grace.”

"Can You and Your Loved Ones Answer These Questions?" from the website

Click here to reach Scott Hensley’s entire story on NPR.

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Best Xmas Gift Ever!

December 14th, 2010 · No Comments

Best Xmas Gift Ever!

(esp. for your adult children)

Nope, it’s not a pair of socks, or a shirt or that canned ham you’ve been thinking about.

Instead, get your affairs in order.  That’s it. Just take an hour or two and carefully write down what you have, where it’s located and what your wishes are.

Do it yourself or let us help

Either way, if your affairs are in order and something happens to you, the people you care about won’t have to spend dozens or even hundreds of grief-filled hours trying to figure everything out.

That’s truly a gift that says I love you, which is probably better than one that says “Your socks are old.”

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“Items You Should Never Sell At a Yard Sale”

November 15th, 2010 · No Comments

“…Certain types of antiques and collectibles speak for themselves. A Tiffany lamp or Waterford crystal goblet, for example, are highly lucrative items. The same goes for memorabilia—Olympic, political, music, sports, Elvis, or movie, to name a few—or “boys toys”: action figures, comic books, and baseball cards. And, based on their condition, these items will sell for more than yard sale prices.

But sometimes looks can be deceiving. When is a ceramic ashtray more than a utilitarian piece of pottery? The not-so-obvious answer is if it’s stamped on the bottom with “Abingdon” or “Made in Occupied Japan.” Cha-ching!

Instead of hoping and praying that the Antiques Road Show blows through your town, why not try to evaluate them yourself? While there are books and Web sites dedicated to the classification of precious antiques and collectibles, the list below can help any neophyte determine the brummagem (collector’s term for the cheap, showy, and worthless) from the real deal.”

Read the whole article at

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